Introduction:
Every parent faces moments when challenging behaviors seem to take over the day. Whether it’s tantrums, aggression, or noncompliance, it’s hard not to feel frustrated or helpless. The good news is there are effective, evidence-based strategies you can use to respond calmly and help your child learn more positive ways to communicate. At Beyond The Spectrum ABA Therapy (BTS), we teach families these practical tools to bring more peace into daily life.
1. Stay Calm and Regulate Yourself
Your child looks to you for cues about how to react. When you remain calm, you help them feel safe and more able to calm down themselves.
- Take a deep breath before responding.
- Use a neutral tone of voice.
- Avoid yelling or showing anger.
At BTS, we coach parents to practice this skill so it becomes second nature.
2. Identify the Function of the Behavior
All behavior serves a purpose. Your child may be trying to:
- Gain attention
- Escape a demand
- Access a preferred item
- Meet a sensory need
Behavior specialists at Beyond The Spectrum ABA Therapy (BTS) help you analyze patterns so you understand what your child is really communicating.
3. Offer Clear, Simple Instructions
When giving directions:
- Use short, specific statements (e.g., “Sit down, please.”)
- Make sure you have your child’s attention.
- Give them time to process before repeating.
The BTS team can show you how consistent, clear communication reduces frustration and supports learning.
4. Reinforce Positive Behavior Immediately
Catch your child being successful—even in small ways—and provide praise or rewards.
- Be specific (“Great job putting your toys away!”)
- Use reinforcers your child cares about (stickers, extra playtime, a favorite snack).
At Beyond The Spectrum ABA Therapy (BTS), we help families build reinforcement systems that really work.
5. Use Visual Supports and Schedules
Visual cues can reduce anxiety and improve understanding. Try:
- Picture schedules to show the steps of an activity
- Choice boards to give options
- Visual timers to show how long a task will last
Our clinicians at BTS can provide templates and examples to make visuals easy to implement at home.
Conclusion:
Challenging behaviors are a normal part of development, but they don’t have to derail your day. With a little guidance and the right strategies, you can create a more peaceful, positive environment for your child and your family. Beyond The Spectrum ABA Therapy (BTS) is here to support you every step of the way.
Call to Action:
Need more personalized help? Contact Beyond The Spectrum ABA Therapy (BTS) to learn how our team can help your family thrive.